My friend works in a funeral home and she asked me to write this for her months ago. I haven’t really had inspiration for it until now.
Nobody likes funerals. In fact, they sort of weird me out, especially the part where everyone stands around and mingles and the person who the funeral is for is just laying in the casket at the front of the room.
No matter how much you hate it, we all have to attend one at some point in our lives and when you attend one, there is not only a proper way to act, but also a proper way to dress. Since this is a fashion blog, I will focus on the dress.
We will start with colors: most people believe that the proper way to go is wearing all black. While that is acceptable, it is not necessary. Any dull, dark, or muted color is acceptable.
They ask (and by they, I mean the universe) that you abstain from wearing super bright colors. Red is usually really disrespectful at a funeral. If you wear red, most people will assume that you are happy that person is gone. Remember that scene in “The Sixth Sense” where they are at the funeral and they find out that the step mother poisoned the daughter and then she is wearing red at the funeral because SHE KILLED HER! (If you haven’t seen it, sorry for the spoiler…but you should rent it because it’s awesome.)
They (once again, I mean the universe) also frown upon yellow, orange, and anything that resembles a highlighter.
Stick to black, navy blue, dark green, dark purple, burgundy, brown, gray and any other dark or muted colors you can think of.
Now on to the clothes
For men, it’s easy: Wear a nice suit. Easy, Peasy, Rice and Cheesy.
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For women, it’s a little more complicated (But not really)
Lets talk about don’ts first:
DON’T wear flip flops
DON’T wear shorts
DON’T wear tee shirts
DON’T wear tennis shoes
And here is my biggest pet peeve and it comes with an anecdote. I was at a funeral last year and as someone was walking up onto the alter, the accidentally flashed their bright red thong. I’m not sure if you know who you are. Maybe that’s why it happened, you genuinely did not know. It doesn’t matter; I still found it to be completely inappropriate so here is my last “Don’ts” for funerals:
DON’T wear low rise pants
DON’T wear ridiculous undergarments that everyone will see.
Now the Do’s
DO wear a pant suit
DO wear a nice skirt
DO wear a blazer
DO wear a nice, clean cut, knee length dress
DO wear nice pants (black jeans don’t count as black pants)
DO wear a nice sweater
Now of course these don’t apply for certain religions. Mourners wear white at Hindu funerals and at both Sikhism and Islamic funerals, the mourners are required to wear headgear however at the Sikhism funerals, everyone wears headgear and at Islamic funerals, the headgear is only worn by the women.
So that’s all I have on this topic. I hope that it will help you get ready for your next funeral.
Here’s where I got my information:
And as usual, I got my pictures from google.